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Tips for Finding the Capitola Home That Suits Your Family
You really can’t blame people for wanting to settle in Capitola. After all, it has earned the reputation of being one of the top-ranking beach locations in the California coast. For families hoping to live in a location with an enviable view and excellent local culture, Capitola, California is the place to be. Located in the county of Santa Cruz, Capitola is an excellent location for a family who loves life by the sea. Looking to settle in this beautiful village? Here are tips for finding the Capitola home that suits your family:
Before anything else, do your own research
Whether you’re buying a brand new home or a fixer-upper, it’s important that you have a good background regarding your purchase. Don’t just rely on the word of the person selling the home to you. After all, no Capitola home or any house in the country for that matter comes maintenance-free and pocket-friendly.
Consider the availability of the homes in the area and compare them. Consider the design and age of the house, its condition and location, the general neighborhood and of course, the price.
Know what you need
How big is your family? Are you a small, growing family or do you have kids bound for college who are soon to leave the nest? The size of your family, along with your interests, wants and expectations will help you decide on what type of home to buy.
Make a list of amenities that will match your family’s needs. Do you need a large garage, maybe extra rooms for your spouse’s or children’s hobbies? If you have pets, do you need a fenced-in yard? Use your needs as the criteria for finding the Capitola home that suits your family best.
Have a good plan
Unless you have a fat bank account, it’s important that you carefully plan each decision prior to choosing and purchasing your family home in Capitola. Make a list of possible houses that will suit your family. Look up background information about them, interview owners/sellers and view the homes yourself. You need to know what you’re going to buy and seeing the house in person will help you make a better decision.
Look for real value
Always consider the bottomline when looking for a home that will fit your family in Capitola. Although the main reason you’re in the market to buy is to put a roof over your family, you really want a house that will give something back to you in the future. Look for long-term value when choosing a home and you’ll be happily living in it with your family for years to come.
PropertyinCapitola.com offers the best for those who decide to dip into the Capitola real estate scene.
Finding Hotels In Malaga Spain
Whether your visit to Spain’s beautiful Costa del Sol region is for business or pleasure, there is a Malaga hotel to meet your needs and preferences. Though there are many hotels in Malaga, Spain, other accommodations are also available including resorts, apartments, conference centers or a Bed and Breakfast. With so many options in accommodation choices, you will surely find suitable arrangements for you whether in a hotel or not.
The average hotel in Malaga will cost around $100.00 US or less. Even the four and five star hotels are reasonably priced. If you prefer a high rise, luxury hotel in the center of the city, you should consider the AC Malaga Palacio Hotel or the Los Naranjos Hotel, both offering the amenities to which one would be accustomed in larger chain hotels. If prefer a more relaxing non-city atmosphere, then you should consider some of the resorts in and around the Malaga area. There are several spas and resorts available, including the Parador Malaga Golf, the Sunset Beach Club or the Gran Hotel Benahavis in Malaga which has a swimming pool and fitness center. It ranges in price from $100.00 to $250.00 US per night. There is also the Radisson sas el Marques Resort and Spa if you prefer a larger, international chain.
Another accommodation option is a Bed and Breakfast, though they are somewhat different in Malaga as compared to those found in the United States. In Malaga and the Costa del Sol region, a moderately sized hotel with a continental breakfast may be termed a Bed and Breakfast simply because it includes a breakfast. Though these hotels are not the likely expected inn with antique furniture and a long country-style porch, they do offer much personal service and a lot of European charm.
Apartments are a good choice for those traveling in larger groups, as a family or for the traveler desiring even more of a home away from home. Apartments offer the conveniences and comforts of home, such as a kitchen, laundry facilities and a living area. You can either rent an apartment for your vacation or even purchase a timeshare whereby you can return each year. Property owners usually rent the apartments for a minimum stay of at least one week, unless you are willing to pay a higher rate for the shorter stay. Apartments are great choices for extended stays in the region also and are popular among retired visitors staying in the area during the off seasons.
Finding Your Fat Loss Trigger
Everyone has a trigger – a point in time where you decide to finally take action. For some, it’s a trip to the doctor’s office. For others, it could be a special occasion where you want to look your best – a wedding, a reunion, or a beach vacation. For me, it was one of the socially awkward situations that fat people often find themselves in.
So there I was, breathing heavily and drenched in sweat. I had just “sprinted” (or as some might call it, “rumbled”) through McCarran International Airport to catch the last flight back to the East Coast on a leisure trip to Las Vegas. My bags were strapped around my chest and digging into my ample man cleavage. You could hear the groans and huffs directed at the late arriving passenger as soon as I got on the jetway. Those quickly turned into eye rolls and squished faces as they saw my sweaty, fat self turn the corner and board the plane. I struggled to fit my bags, my gut and my rump down the extremely narrow aisle (it was later I realized that the aisle was so narrow because half the plane was as fat as I was, they just weren’t sweating because they were on time). I arrived at my row to find that I was rewarded with a 757 middle seat…a fate worse than death for a fat man. Not only that, but the entire plane is waiting for me to stow my bags and get seated so we can make the long trek home.
So as I struggle to fit my bag under the seat, I could feel the eyes focused on my big, fat sweaty butt bent over, undoubtedly brushing the shoulder of the person across the aisle. Unfortunately, my rear was so big that I had kind of lost feeling in the farthest reaches of it, so if I was hitting into something I didn’t really know it. I got my bags wedged in under the seat in front of me, and now it was time for the fun part – wedging my rump into the seat.
I could see the lucky person in the window seat fidgeting as I entered the row, staring out the window blankly with a scowl on her face. She knew that, not only was she going to be sitting next to a sweaty, fat guy for 4+ hours, but that if I needed some extra space I would most likely be leaning in her direction, as she was smaller in stature than the woman occupying the aisle seat.
I get into the seat and struggle with pulling the seatbelt out from under my weighty butt. The entire time I can see the beads of sweat flying to and fro and landing on the floor and seat in front of me – enough to make even me throw up in my mouth just a little. I am muttering to myself, praying that I won’t need a seatbelt extension. Luckily I have enough abdominal strength to suck in just enough to get the seatbelt around me. When I breathe out again and try to sit back, I can feel the vinyl armrests digging into my sides and the cold sweat-soaked shirt slowly sticking to my skin all up and down my back. The woman on the aisle gave me a look of disgust as she sat back down, Mrs. Glass House that she was.
As the captain made his announcements, I could feel my heart rate return to “normal” and could also feel the rash forming on the sides of my gut from the relentless armrests – I certainly had a case of the Dunlops (my gut had “dun-lopped” over the armrests!)
Luckily, the woman on the window had a bladder like a camel, because I closed my eyes and fell asleep – probably filling the entire plane with animal-like snores from the excess neck fat I was carrying. I didn’t want to risk being awake when the snack cart came around.
What was, in reality, 15 minutes from the time I got through airport security to the time I was seated, felt like an eternity to me. That happens when you are navigating through a most dreaded experience.
That was my watershed – or in this case, my fatshed – moment. It was then that I admitted to myself that I was fat and needed to do something about it.
Matt Lisk is a fat loss expert who has used his knowledge to lose over 70 pounds of body fat, reduce his body fat percentage to under 10% and to resolve a variety of health issues he was experiencing. He is the author of Lean State University’s Fat Loss 101 Newsletter.
Finding Your Love of Life in the Internet: a Comprehensive Guide to Online Dating
Internet can be compared to an ocean, which hides in its depths myriads of thinkable and unthinkable things. This is an ocean, indeed, the ocean of information concerned with all possible aspects of our life. And as such, the virtual space of world wide web is linked directly to our material world. Hence, you can pull out of www almost everything you want: music, movies, clothes, furniture, tropical cruises, cars, philosophical concepts and real love: your boyfriend or girlfriend. Important is just to know what kind of fish (or, perhaps, mermaid or merman) you want to catch from these “waters”, how to choose right nets, where to deploy them, what kind of bait to use, and when mermaids/mermen come, how to get one without scaring her (or him) away.
The anonymity of the www can go so deep, that you may flirt on-line with a real mermaid while thinking that this is just a girl. How you can tell? Well, note if she knows well about fish and whales, likes to sing and (beware!) proposes you to meet her on a beach or seashore.
Now, seriously, no scales! For start, and now I am talking about finding your best half on-line, you have to set your mind for the quest. This is a most important starting point: set your mind on who you want to find, to date, to love! Everything else will be derived from this point. Usually people are finding what they are looking for – this is a law of the Universe. So, before getting into this quest, you need to set your goals. To make things easy, best of all is to prepare a list, which will help you to determine what are the major features that you want to find in her or him, what kind of things you may accept or ignore, and, finally, what you really would like to avoid.
The technical approach to your search can be done either by placing your profile on the dating/matchmaking site, by looking through posted profiles and contacting those whom you found interesting, and finally (the best approach) by doing both and using different networks. However, most important is to do all that right!
When you are posting your profile, describe yourself briefly but precisely, i.e. avoid any ambiguities. Present your personal virtues, interests and life priorities. Your photo must be of high quality, large, recent (important!) and really showing the original (the picture of yourself in scuba gear taken from a passing-by motor boat would not work for you, even if this is your favorite one). Also, you will save a lot of time for yourself if you openly list all character features, habits, etc. of potential candidates, which are unacceptable for you. “Married chronic junky” are very common rejection keywords, although, you might think to be more specific. Word of caution, though: if you will narrow down your requirements to somewhat as “I am looking for a model, who is also a role model in life”, be careful: your potential match can be repelled by a thought that you are driven by some inferiority complex, which makes you too picky.
Don’t be shy, if you see a profile, which you really like, contact him or her first. By all means do not send a generic letter. Mention specifics which you like in the profile of this person, what touched you, why you are writing to him or her. However, do not let yourself to be dragged into a long on-line exchange. If you are not seeking a virtual romance (some people do, but this is not what we are discussing here), move to the next step as soon as possible. Give your phone number. However, don’t give your phone number to anybody. Better: open separate cell phone account for such calls only. This will cost you less than changing both your home and cell numbers if you will run into some obnoxious drag.
Before actual meeting, you need to talk to the person by a phone: there are several reasons for doing that. First, you need just to hear a voice. Sometimes this may tell you a lot, it can be complete turn-off, but do not put too much into it. I had once a date with a lady who sounded on a phone like a drunken old hag. I almost hang up thinking that I am a victim of a prank, but natural curiosity won, so I set the date, time and place for a meeting. One who sounded so badly on the phone in life appeared young and beautiful girl, who made all men turn their heads when she entered the restaurant. Honestly, my jaw dropped down when I saw her: so much the actual appearance contrasted with the slow and squeaky voice which I’ve heard on the phone. Second, phone talk may give you an idea on vocabulary and, hence, social position of the person. One young lady, a friend of mine, had a week-long exchange with a guy, who apparently enchanted her with his writings. They decided to meet, so he called her on a phone. When he called, his talk was saturated with so many unnecessary colloquial terms, that she became absolutely convinced not to pursue this acquaintance any further. Needless to say, that the meeting never took place.
Transfer from virtual relationship into a real one is a serious deal. There are no small things there. All is important: where to have a meeting, what to wear, what to talk about, and what better no to talk about too.
So, the place of meeting is important indeed. According to my brief study out of 15 men questioned on the subject, 4 proposed meeting in a church (warm, soothing and inexpensive environment), 3 in café, 3 in a restaurant, 2 in night club, 1 invited to his place, 1 offered walk in a park, and one couldn’t answer. Perhaps, any place for a first meeting will be good, as long as you would have enough time and space to learn about each other. Thus, church might not be the best choice, considering perhaps different religious backgrounds, and the fact that some people are coming there for speaking to God and not to each other. Meeting outdoors might be OK, as long as weather permits, and there is enough safety and not too much noise, crowd and cars. Perhaps out of all mentioned places café, restaurant and night club were the best choices. Advice to ladies: if man having a problem with picking a meeting place or offers you something that you don’t really feel comfortable about, propose a meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small café nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is always quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art.
When you are preparing for the first meeting keep in mind, that you are meeting with a stranger. The odds that you will run into Jack the Ripper are next to none, but less dramatic nuisance is still possible. In other words some reasonable safety considerations would not be an extra. The place must not be completely deserted by people (cemeteries, remote parks or abandoned factories are bad choices), there must be a clear way for retreat. It would not hurt you to leave a note to one of your close friends or relatives that you going to a first date with so-and-so (name), and to leave a phone number of this person. Just in case.
The attire should be in accord with the place of a meeting. Important to have not only nice, but comfortable clothing, so you will feel firm.
It is scientifically proven fact, that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting. In other words, one will never have a chance to make a first impression for the second time. Kindness, calmness and smile – this is what is needed for making a contact and winning the trust.
At the first meeting it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives (or husbands) and lovers, about issues with your health, talk about problems at work or touching any religious subjects. Best approach is to listen more than talk, ask supporting questions. Of course, you have to listen actively, give short phrases or just words, like “Is that right?!”, “Yeah, I see”, “Interesting”. Your task will be to find a topic of mutual interest. Then your date will open and the talk will be sincere.
Now you have to observe. If your date talks only about him(her)self, about his(her) accomplishments, and so on, then, very likely, this person is trying to raise oneself in your eyes. And this is not a good sign. If your date talks a lot and in detail about his(her) past relationships, problems at work, etc., it is quite possible that he (or she) just trying to compensate oneself for the lack of social connections, while you, as a person, are not interesting to him(her) in a bit. One of my on-line dates, whom I finally met at a restaurant, almost didn’t touch her meals, but talked in a great detail about her past boyfriend, their break-up and how much she still suffers from it. I understood, that the main reason for this meeting was her need to tell her sad story to somebody else and that’s all.
Clearly, the purpose of a first date is to find out: do you like this person and do you want a continuation. If you don’t like the person, better not to lie that you will call later, just tell upfront that you think that you made a wrong choice.
If you like one you’ve just met, but have no idea if this feeling is mutual, there are several ways to figure this out. 1) Before leaving you should say something like: “I really enjoyed my meeting with you. I don’t know if you feel the same, but if you like, please, call me or write me. I will be happy to see you again”. After that you just have to wait for development. Or, “I really enjoyed my meeting with you. Maybe we can go together to cinema (theater, baseball game, restaurant, museum …).” This is a good option, because the answer will not be not postponed.
In spite of common (correct) opinion that dating over the Internet is the easiest way to find someone, my personal experience of Internet dating (I’ve met my wife through Match.com and we live happily ever since) is that this is still a lot of work. Preparing and tuning your profile, writing numerous personal messages, doing search, talks, meetings require certain commitment. Many people are getting sucked into this “game”, they cannot stop out of a fear that tomorrow they may meet someone who is smarter, handsomer, better than their current candidate(s). Do not let yourself to be stuck into this state, be pro-active, get yourself out of virtual circle as soon as you can.
Internet became a part of modern culture, and it reflects the society, which created it. It can be good and it can be evil. An opinion, that only losers suffering from inferiority complexes are meeting through the Internet can hurt only those who can mindlessly express such nonsense. Millions of interesting, kind, smart and decent, but lonely people cannot find their match just because they are spending too much time at work and live in well-isolated from strangers environment. Indeed, where one can find his or her match? In a car on a way to/from work, in a grocery store, or, perhaps, at executive meeting? Often dating sites on the web are the only ways to find someone for such people.
Meeting over the Internet makes many things easy. You don’t have to go somewhere, seeking right person, think what to say and how to approach. Besides, in a real life such person may not be into dating at all. It is just opposite in the Internet: we contact another people, who have the same goals as ourselves. It is a failure-proof system!
If, for whatever reason you couldn’t find someone you are looking for, switch the network (another network likely will have another database of members) or, if tired, take 2-3-week break. Small timeout will help you to regain your determination about meeting someone on-line. Besides, thousands of people join the networks daily, so the “pool” of potential dates changes fast. Just don’t give up and don’t be discouraged if you will not achieve the desired results immediately. There are no failures, you just getting more experience. Believe in your success, and it will come to you one day. Isn’t it a miracle one day to pull out of an ocean a mermaid or merman, who will tell you: I love you!
Des is a freelance writer with one Ph.D. and one M.S., which are irrelevant to the major subject of his writing: relationships and dating. In order to see other articles / tips of Desmond Ray on on-line dating as well as to access a comprehensive library of e-books and other materials on the subject, please visit: http://orbiana.com/Dating/web_dating_advisor.html
If you are looking for an on-line date, one of the largest directories can be found at http://orbiana.com/people_match_hub.html This is the site where you can contact Des, if you would have any questions or comments.
Finding the Top Travel Insurance Deal
Travelling abroad needn’t fill you with worry, but it’s important to be covered just in case the worst does come along. Flight cancellation and loss of baggage or passport are some of the more trivial things that could happen while your away, but you could also find yourself in a very sticky financial situation should you or one of your group become ill or suffer an accident. Outside the EU, medical expenses won’t be covered, while even inside the EU you may need to pay for transport home or private treatment. Taking out the correct travel insurance policy can cover you against all of these misdemeanours, and give you peace of mind while you’re away. If you’re looking for the best travel insurance deal for this summer, then take a read of this article for some tips for finding the best policy.
The Type of Policy
There are quite a few fundamentally different insurance policies available. There’s single or multi trip, then specific packages such as backpacker insurance and sports insurance for holidays such as skiing. It shouldn’t be too hard to think of what you need if you’re going on a foreign beach holiday within the EU – probably single trip cover – but if you’re considering more than one trip during a twelve month period, you should probably go for multi trip. The family deals on these packages can make them cheaper in the long term. Outside the EU is likely to drive your quote higher. You should remember that due to their expensive private healthcare system, you will probably need to pay more if you’re travelling to the USA, and substantially more if you’re going on a sporting or skiing trip due to the related risks.
Check on Your Circumstances
While you can tailor your insurance package according to your needs – such as getting ski cover and the like – you will also need to consider special circumstances for your group. For instance, do you or any of your party have a history of serious illness? If the answer is yes, then the quote you’re after can rocket upwards. Likewise, the same can happen for pregnant women and those over sixty five. However, it may still be possible to find a specialist insurer that will give you a quote which is less than traditional insurers. If worst comes to worst and you can’t find a reasonable quote and you’re only travelling within the EU, then get an EHIC card and find insurance for baggage loss and flight cancellation. Be warned though, an EHIC card will not always cover all medical expenses.
How Much Cover Do You Really Need?
Getting an EHIC card for the EU is fine for medical treatment, but then it won’t actually protect you for loss of baggage, or flight cancellation. Furthermore, not all European countries have substantial state owned hospital infrastructure, which may mean you end up at a private hospital for emergency treatment. In this case, you may have to pay in order to be treated, and in any case you may have to pay for emergency flights back to the UK. Despite these issues, it’s important that you don’t overpay. It’s extremely unlikely that your medical expenses would ever exceed more than £2,000,000, while personal liability cover should be around the £1,000,000 mark. Take out around this amount of cover with extra for loss of baggage or flight cancellation and you should be ready to go!
For great deals on cheap travel insurance including annual travel insurance visit AA Travel Insurance and ensure that you are covered for medical expenses up to £10,000,000.
Finding the Perfect Family Vacation at the Perfect Price
I have been in the travel business for 15yrs, and I am often asked the best times to travel to the Caribbean. My personal opinion is between the end of Thanksgiving thru December 19. The weather is great, the prices (especially this year) are low and the resorts are not crowded.
If you are parents of kids under 6, this could be perfect. However, for those of us who can not take our children out of school, we will have to deal with the extra expense of holiday travel, the long lines and crowded pools. Or do we?
As all of the deals pass my desk, I look for value and pick the best ones to share with my readers. I have NEVER seen prices this low for holidays and winter travel. Holiday travel usually is 3-4 times the regular rates, this year, it is the same or lower. If you still have your travel budget put aside – use it now, take advantage of these deals – because I have never seen rates like these before.
In thinking of family vacations, the first one that comes to mind is Club Med. Last time I was there, we still had to pay for drinks, now it is truly all inclusive – drinks, sports, you name it, it is included in the vacation cost. There are many resorts through out the Caribbean that I can recommend for families, but we will focus on Club Med right now, as their prices are phenomenal for the experience and memories the entire family will come home with.
If you do not feel like reading all of my descriptions – go straight to the deal, the best prices are from now to December 19, however, if you keep clicking, you will also find never before seen prices during the holidays and winter!
The basic deal is: 7 all-inclusive nights for the price of 3, which usually is $793per person ($114 a day). Book by December 15 for travel between 9/15/08 – 4/25/09.
Kids Clubs:
Baby Zone 4mos -23mos: There is no day care for babies under two; however, when you make your reservation, you will tell them how old your children are so you are given the proper room and amenities. They will set you up in the “baby zone” including crib, changing table and all the comforts of home with a small baby. Adapted to the nutritional needs of children, the meals are created by a team of specialist chefs from the Baby Restaurant. This Baby Restaurant is located in the Baby Club Med At the Baby Restaurant, the G.O® takes on the entire responsibility of lunch but parents can share this time with their child(ren) if they wish. Children ages 2-4 can utilize the “Petit Club Med”, this is a parents; dream day care center. There is an additional charge for this day care.
Kids 4-10yrs old “Mini Club Med”: this is where if gets really fun and different! This club and all others are included in the basic price. The children are divided up into their age groups and given a plethora of activities to choose from whether it is learning how to sail, flying trapeze, and crafts are playing in the Kids only pool. The staff is dedicated and will teach the children new skills for sports, circus, crafts, etc..
Tweens & Teens: In my former life as a travel agent – these are the ones who had the most fun at Club Med. The activities are perfect for each age group ranging from water sports, learning how to be a DJ and mix, hip hop dancing, hang out rooms, teen only activities at night. There is even a theatre class where children can perform at the end of the week. These kids have a blast and the beauty is you do not have to worry about them as they are always somewhere on the property and there is always staff around to keep an eye on them.
Club Meds Best for Families that are part of this great deal:
Sandpiper: Located in Florida, a bit North of Palm Beach, easy to get to, but once you are there; you are in complete vacation mode. This Club Med has all the kids clubs from babies to teens. Sandpiper is a great, inexpensive short, family get away. Though you are still in the states, you will completely feel like you are away from it all as you feel that Club Med vibe as soon as you walk in. There are special family rooms, a kids room and an adults room; golf for the adults, five swimming pools and more.
Punta Cana, Dominican Republic: All the rooms are large suite like rooms – with different sizes depending on the family size. Renovated Resort with a long private beach bordered by palm trees. Circus school for the little ones, flying trapeze or fitness for adults. From babies of 4 months (at Baby Club Med® – extra charge) to teens, a club devoted to every age. Relax in the sun by the pool or through massages and treatments at the Club Med Spa (extra charge for spa).
Cancun, Mexico: This used to be a run down Club Med for singles – but not anymore! As the newest upscale discovery resort, Cancun Yucatan offers something decidedly different. Enjoy a free excursion and discovery the wonders of the Yucatan Peninsula with your family.
They offer luxurious Jade Suites, with an exclusive bar, concierge, room service and other upgraded amenities. Let your ‘teens and tweens hang out at their very own clubhouse while you take a cooking class. Enjoy an evening Mini Club MedTM performance, where your 4 year old presents a folklore dance on stage. Discover new cosmopolitan flavors at any of the three innovative restaurants at your own speed—Cancun Yucatan provides gourmet dining to satisfy your cravings at any hour.
Ixtapa, Mexico – On the West side of Mexico, easier to get to if you are in the South West or West Coast, this is the newest of the Club Med family. Facing the Pacific Ocean, an elegant hacienda it is coined as “The happiness of having a taste of everything”. The architecture hacienda style offers a new type of elegance.
In summary, if you want a Island type, but different kind of family get away, where you know the kids will have fun and you will relax and try new sports, take advantage of this sale before all the rates go up again.
Whether it is a 3 day weekend from $250pp or weeks’ vacation, from $350pp, take advantage of these incredible prices – if you add up everything included – you will see the savings!
My job is to find the best deals available for our newsletter and let people know about our newsletter. What is really cool is that we come across every kind of travel from a Caribbean Cruise, to a hotel in California, to an exotic adventure trip to South America, Asia, etc..
Finding abundance without being perfect
Ironically, perfection might be a flawed concept for you and me. It might be the last thing standing between you and what you want.
The pursuit of perfection probably results in more cancellations than anything else. It’s a good excuse not to because if perfection isn’t there, then I’m excused for looking into it further or gathering any further evidence.
There is a lack of recognition as to what is perfect. I am seeking perfection but I couldn’t recognize it if its winds did come in my direction because I don’t have the perfect eye for seeing perfection and my creative vision has been cramped by the narrowness of my pursuits.
I might begin to realize that I am putting a premium on perfection, meaning I’m bargaining away other opportunities that don’t meet up with the word perfect. But I might consider whether this is where I want to put my premium and if it best serves my purposes and designs.
I am pondering what should be perfect for me but that might leave some important things relatively out of sight and out of mind because my theory of relativity means I am looking at opportunities relative to perfection’s mandates which by my own choice I am putting first on line.
I could also think of what would be big for me. If I could do this or that, it would be big for me, regardless of whether I could achieve actual perfection. This could be big for me an extend past the line of what I expected. It might not be perfection, but it certainly surpasses previously held expectations. Pondering what is going to be a relatively big deal for me if and when I get there is also a way of identification of what I actually want that doesn’t always mesh in total with perfection.
As to what I hope to identify and define as being perfect is it ever going to be there or is it never going to be there? I want to be a perfect center in the NBA, but since I’m only 6’5 feet tall I’m never going to jump the tap against the Shaq who’s height advantage has already decided that outcome for the most part.
Perfection and its standards might be rising to high against the investigative process. I might be trying to raise my sights by investigating something and at the same time perfection is the leading theme of the investigation, but also I want to look at what lacks perfection but might be useful nonetheless. I want two boats to appear on the seas horizon when I just really need the one and I can reach compromises with perfection to get that one boat moving. Compromise with some of your ideals of perfection if it will help you move.
If I have a job or situation that I can in fact work perfectly, then that should be a red flag, a red flag saying that there is not enough creativity involved in this pursuit because I can achieve perfection but the creative process is muted a bit and not enough creativity is bubbling up. Too much perfection as defined in performances is an indicator that I’m not taking creative chances.
Perfection might take out the percentages for me. I am 50 percent interested in this. Perfection tells me I should be 100 percent interested or forget about it whereas I can take and work with lesser percentages especially in the face of possible real rewards. I can allow myself and frame for smaller percentages that 100 percent in my decision making and pursuits.
Perfection can result in an all or nothing mentality where we lose sight of both the gradations and elongations. Even if we get perfection for this moment, it’s not going to stretch out to infinity for us. In addition, a truthful look at any situation involves gradations and nuances that involve proper particularization of what we are seeing. The ease of perfection may be just another trap blinding us to the real. It is easy enough to count 1,2,3 perfectly, but realism is the first order of the day, not an escape into easily found perfection and thereby avoiding complexities involved in the typical mess.
I am looking for perfection or nothing. I need to work with less than perfect because I need to not take the easy way out by saying where is the perfect road? It is too much easy streets to say I have to have perfection and then I walk away on that basis. I have to have it this way, the perfect way or I will not have it at all. I am at the beach waiting for that perfect wave and I will consider nothing else as far as a wave. By doing this, I am not escaping the chaos either, and I’m better off just going more fully into the chaos, letting those waters rumble as they may and then is the perfect wave does arise, so be it. Let the wanted perfection go, and bring on the chaos, and then I can still maybe get some tints of perfection even as I am dealing with greater or lesser degrees of actual chaos from which there is now way I can reduce away from if I want to proceed.
I’m not far behind. This is a very positive statement and in some cases, it might be the proper view. If my potential as an actor is to be not far behind Ben Affleck, then maybe I should be in the movies. But sometimes when I am just taking in the view of perfection, I might not see that I’m not far behind. That I am not far behind is not a daring statement but just a reality telling me that is this is so, than I can proceed with hope in sight.
The view of being not far behind is quite good and although not perfect, if I am not far behind Tiger Woods on the golf course, then I need to know the meaning and charting involved in that as well.
I might be looking for my dream date, but if that doesn’t happen I might find another date that is not far behind. Instead of thinking why am I am not perfect, think about how good it is to be not far behind.
I might be thinking about perfection and I might miss the next best thing. If I can’t get the best things or perfect things, I have the option of the next best thing if I can accept this. If I can’t get exactly what I thought I wanted, what is the next best thing?
Then I might not be perfect but I might be better at this or that. I might not be the President or the king but I might be better as schoolteacher, gymnast, runner, swimmer, and reader of books than many of my contemporaries. But maybe I just rate with my contemporaries, I bounce off this side of the wall, they bounce off that side of the wall, but I am operating within similar boundary markers. Everybody is in the chaos, and the range that can be found is only within some manner of chaos, chaos that is even 1 percent there does introduce that there is chaos.
Perfection can trip up the comparisons if I compare myself to perfection I might lose some sight and recognition as to what I still have, going for me that might not reach into the realm of perfection but might be an asset nonetheless that is still very usable. But, maybe you are in a comparable range to perfection is when someone says, “ How are you doing?” And you answer, “compared to what, perfection?”
But the search for perfection is going to have the tendency of putting us on a comparison trip because what compares to perfection? And in consideration of new territory, everybody faces new territory that is completely not traveled at starting points and mandates from perfection right at start point zero, doesn’t exactly get one into working territory if I have such a long and arduous road ahead and I also need to know where perfection lies on this road right from the outset.
I might want to test capacities. I might even have the capacity to become a positive person and coach myself in that fashion. But I don’t know what my capacities are until I let myself first find and then go through the finding out process so in this case I am not necessarily looking for perfection but just to find out what my capacities are in this or that and at least allow myself to test for and view into my capacities by visiting what is in part experiential. Because I don’t know my actual capacities, I search them out as a partial unknown and the deciphering process in that isn’t that I am looking for perfection, I am just looking for what are the capacities involved here and whether there indeed are capacities that can be breached.
I might be more capable then I think and this contributes to being well below capacity/
No matter what I can accomplish, in the day, or in a given period, there is a lot that I am going to have to leave undone. Wanting perfection isn’t going to get everything done because it just isn’t possible. I am dealing with limitations as to what can be done at the outset and all the way through.
We might be raising the bar a little bit too high by trying to things perfectly and I can practice dealing with confidence and basically just look at what will raise my confidence rather than what will raise perfection because my personal confidence is more of an intrinsic factor and or need. What I am I trying to raise, it might be confidence, it might be awareness, it might be the ability to experience, but I need not always raise the banner of perfection and it’s standards.
My search for perfection might be like running after the sunset instead of just taking it in as a moment in time.
Whatever I can capture in the moment is probably not going to ring through the ages for me anyway so I can only hope to be present to the moment first and only then ask humbly what could echo through the ages for me on this.
What would and could form into a proper symphony for me. Not that we want to be passive, but the striving must have a course that we actually begin to walk into with some light at the end of some tunnel. Perfect or not can I go somewhere with this that is more contextual to who and where I am now? I have a right to feel, know and immerse into context, because that is where I am.
The key point is that if we are going to work with the idea of perfection at all, we need to see perfection as not being a stationary concept. Perfection itself might show different faces. The new faces of perfection will appear as things change and suddenly know I do have this in a degree of perfection or in a way that can be describable as perfect. We will still need to make continuing moves if we want to track with currents of perfection, sometimes these currents may clash, and we need to move realizing that we are tracking with more than one thing. To have any workability, perfection cannot be seen as a stationary concept. It might not have been there and suddenly it has arisen, like the rising sun of the early dawn.
While your looking for perfection, you might miss your connections which are critical to just getting into wanted scenes.
A key concept with this is also that the coordinates of perfection will move or change within the currents of perfection. The standing stations of perfection will change and then stand somewhere else. As we patrol the waters of perfection, we need to look at around at the movements of the sea.
The face of perfection might be changing.
What does perfection mean to people and how do they use the concept?
Perfectionism for some can result in absolutism. For them for things to be perfect it absolutely has to be this way. The focus must be absolute and absolutely I must obtain this goal when it could be decidedly dropped or toned down to lighter expectations.
Perfection for some is making plans and following those plans to the tee. The blueprint, the outline, the plans, should not be compromised if perfection can be found. The basic problem with this is that who is too say that the plan was right in the first place or that other plans once carried out may carry equal or real viability or have wanted results. Or even more outrageous is expecting that the variables that are to be faced could be fully foreseen or contemplated and controlled for at the outset. Even if I can foresee fully and I can contemplate fully, that doesn’t suddenly leave me fully able to do wanted things with this foresight and great contemplations. I may have an advantage I otherwise did not have, but only an advantage and advantages don’t always play to the thunder either. I need to adjust my outline, adjust my plans, adjust my ideas as I travel further down the coastline.
For some perfection involves what is known. I want that established equilibrium, I want the known perfection. But wanting this isn’t going to get me this. What I don’t know dwarfs anything I can possibly know. How much of the future can I know from this moment? But if I am seeking perfection and correlate that with having to know, it might cost me the chance to seek the unknown and yet see it as exciting, as an adventure and possible holding some good or positive surprises. How can you derive excitement from the unknown and first want that visible perfection? I don’t have to see that unknown that way, but I could try to think of the unknown as something that might be good, and maybe this way of approaching things would be advantageous at times.
Then perfection might relate against the turnaround, against getting it back, getting on another track. Since I looked for perfection, I lost my way and I might as well give up. How about the turnaround? I already lost perfection, she sailed away, so I totally give up and I don’t make the turn for anything new. However, some turnaround was still possible. If I only looked on more time, but I turned my back to the coast one last time.
Then I am looking inward, or am I looking outward, where I am looking? Seeking perfection can result in an aggravated sense of self-focus and it can result it too much of an outward focus at times. I need to balance the outer and inner focus and neither neglect the outer or inner as I chart my course while blending both, but my definition of perfection has me off balance there. For example, I should be socializing more and with people more. But I am waiting for the perfect time so I can present a perfect front and image or when I most feel like it not realizing that feeling arise and surface as we go into things. I feel the waters as I go into the seas. In the meantime, I am too inward in my focus and I am losing the balance beam of perfection in that way. I wasn’t able to balance myself to the shifting sands along my coastline. Those dunes of perfection were too high for me. Or I did have perfections winds behind my sails and I just don’t or didn’t see it that way. My concepts and definitions of perfection were cloudy, yet perfection did arise from what I had, and I mistakenly did not know I had it, and I ended up looking for something I already had, a mistake made by many.
Then perfection seems to relate to limits. If I’m perfect, if I can find this perfection, then there shouldn’t be any limits there. Can I forget about my limitations then once I am finally perfect? I need to keep them in mind if I am to chart a course that is workable. But really the perfection I am looking for is found within real limits but despite these limits I do have the perfection. I can’t hurl a baseball across the ocean and that is my mistaken definition of perfection. However I can hit the mitt of the catcher every time from the pitchers mound and for that I have the perfect pitch. But some people start to feel the word perfection usurps real limitations when I am never going to find myself without limitations and it is better to know the game I’m in rather than thinking the game is different from false truths that I had arrived to in my thinking and in yet another way, I lose the truth of the perfection I actually did have.
And then limitations that might not be there are imposed by perfections demands. I think the perfect woman would also include being a super model. But then I could consider a woman who isn’t a supermodel, but not if I am looking for my idea of perfection. I am limiting myself to a woman with a given set of circumstances or characteristics. The perfect woman is 30 years old, so I limit myself to woman of this age and I don’t launch from any other platform of thinking.
This also ties up in not seeing what might be real abundance. I am looking for a perfect woman on the crowded beach. There is an abundance of women on the beach, but because of my idea of perfection, I don’t see this abundance or the range of abundance that is really there. Where are the boundary markers and who determines where they are? I am looking for a perfect idea when there is a flock of good ideas out there or an open range of good ideas out there. If things aren’t rolling out perfectly for you it doesn’t mean they aren’t rolling out for you and often quite abundantly and there are more ways to extend what I want if I don’t predefine off what is a more elusive concept of wanted perfection.
Then I think the perfection takes on all the risk. I can skydive perfectly, I could surf the giant waves perfectly, but is this perfection I am finding take away the real risks of what I am doing. The risk remains right within the perfection because even if I am the perfect surfer, the real risk of the titanic wave is not a mirage that perfect surfing masks over.
Or it could be just around the corner.
An example could be the apple tree with an abundance of apples, but only one perfect apple. Even if you find that perfect apple, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t lots of other good apples on that tree and the reach of what that tree has to offer is in reality greater than what my demand for perfection conceptualizes in the moment
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The perfection is sought by some as some sort of monuments that is a citation to some things or to have in my sight. But in the end, neither perfection nor imperfection is going to be left standing as regards to you and me and perfection needs to more be seen as something that I can move with, move into, if it is going to reach in the plains of valid and usable and forward seeking.
Then some of us want to show perfection but we might end up with perfections mask. But then what happens if I want to take that mask off, and the truth of my imperfection is revealed. And then I might have made a mistake, I had the wrong interpretation of what perfection was, in fact I was perfect underneath the mask,, but I thought not, so I hid that perfect self with what I thought was a mask of perfection but it was actually a mask of imperfection. The perfection I thought I was presenting with the mask, hid the true gem. I was so worried about perfection, that I actually hid perfection by not keeping this to their original form.
Then I might be looking for perfection and I can’t even tell. For me it’s not even a searchable characteristic. I can’t seem to search the interior. I am on this date, is she perfect, I don’t know? I don’t even have the tools to test for perfection. I am not a weatherman and I don’t have the barometers and I am not a perfection man because I don’t have those barometers, I don’t even know how to test for perfection.
An especially important idea that relates to perfection is pace. I feel like I should pick up the pace. I can’t be sure that a faster pace will bring me to perfection. It might be true but in other cases, I might be better off slowing the pace. There might be instances where I am missing out because I am operating at a faster pace. Other times I might be missing out because I am operating at too slow a pace. I might be moving to a slower clock or I might need to move to a slower clock. The increased velocity is only going to take me so far, I not going to the Moon anytime soon no matter how much I pick up the pace. I might try to capture perfection at a faster pace, but it still might outrun me in elusive fashion. The symphony that will work for me might be found at another pace. With a faster pace, it might be that I am compressing expectations into a smaller time frame or period. I confine my efforts to this time frame and this pace, where the eventual results might be found within a longer time horizon or a different pace. I might find my way on the next series of events. This might not have been my series and maybe things will find their niche in the next series. I’ll find my way next time.
If I had followed a fast pace to nowhere, I still want to pace myself for the next series, the next time, and have some left for that. What I can do wrong here is that I make judgments off frames. For example, I am working on a project, I judge it off a week time frame, where I could judge it better off a month time frame. I judge it off a how things are looking straight through the week or month and judge it off how consistent the results might be, where the results might be found in clusters and I need to frame for results off clusters rather than a smooth terrain view.
Or I might have driven myself right past my goals and what I want by following too fast a pace, and losing the eye of the observer. Alternatively, I get up drive for the sake of drive. I drive myself forward in something I don’t want or I am not interested in. I hate golf, but I practice all the time, why bother, then, save that drive for something you like. But I really do like golf, and I frame this to where it is a leisurely pursuit that I will get to after I have reached some other pinnacle. So if I don’t reach that pinnacle, I don’t golf. For example, I will not golf this year until I have earned 100 thousand dollars. This is the frame I’ve established, and if I don’t first make that money, I just don’t golf for the year. If I want to do this, I can do this but realize that the frame up I choose was my choice and it is a changeable choice. I can say, I’ll go golfing after I make my first 5,000 for the year. I thereby change the frame and pace of my decisions.
I can work with perfection on a one-time basis. I’ll give this dream one shot, and then I’ll go back. I’ll try for an adventurous job in a foreign land for one time, or I’ll try to write one novel or one page of a novel if that is to high a goal. Again it is the frame I choose, I can choose a frame of multiple attempts rather than just one. I can try every 6 months for a job in a foreign land rather than say trying just once.
What happens also is we lose the partial sometimes when we look for perfection, if something isn’t perfect doesn’t mean we need to assign a zero to it. It this is something I have that I can’t conceivably value at perfection, I don’t automatically assign no value to it either.
There is the idea of a qualified perfection. I say this qualifies as perfect is this or that happens or is present. But really what is going to qualify as perfection and that can chance at different periods of your life. Maybe going of and hitting the mountains after to many months in the office now for this period indeed does qualify as perfect in the quest for rejuvenation and in finding a lost part of yourself that can be activated again if you do go away.
As far as perfection, even if it is there, I might not be able to get to it. Perfection might have a wider scope than you can reach.
Say for example, the ocean is deemed as perfect. You go to the ocean. It is so vast how much of it can you reach anyway. You go in the water, you can’t see to the bottom or the far distance beyond the horizon. You take a cup and fill it with water from the ocean, how much of this ocean have you been able to capture?
In the movie the Beach, Leonardo DeCaprio and friends have a map showing the way to a hidden perfect beach. But issues impose as the movie progresses and ultimately he can’t have this perfect beach.
I could be perfect and see the perfection in front of me in any number of areas, but that doesn’t mean I can get to it. I look up at the perfect star, that doesn’t mean I can get there.
I go to the beach and in the distance; I see some perfect surfers’ waves. But between these waves and the shores are savage currents. I can’t get to the waves without crossing through these savage currents. I can’t get there without an extreme risk. I can go to another part of the beach where the waves are good, but not perfect but these waves are within the reachable realm. But I can get to them and ride them with a fair amount of safety. So what is better, the perfection I see but can’t get to, or the less perfect that I can actually get to?
You get the Sunday Times. You consider every article perfect. But how many articles can you get to without spending the complete day with the paper? To read every article is really out of reach even if you spent the whole day with the paper.
You go to the library. There are lots of books you want to read cover to cover, these books are close to perfect. But you can’t get to every book in the library of Congress, even as a speed-reader. The perfection is right there, but the scope of it is too wide for you to actually reach. The perfection might be in the far away future or the distant past and you can’t reach it because it not there right now. You can’t see the perfect movie in 2110 at this point. But even if it’s right in front of us now, we still might not be able to get to most of it. Say there is a stadium full of close to perfect people at this game. Can you talk with all of them at this time? The perfection is there, but you can’t position yourself for all of it.
Another difficulty with using the concept of perfection is it can disorder our priorities. We consider what we want to put up front. For example, I say I’ll only paint this picture if I can do it just about perfectly. Suddenly, painting is less of a priority, where it might have been the thing to do today if I hadn’t introduced the idea of perfection into the situation.
Should I order my priorities on what I could do more perfectly. For example, I don’t want to date anybody unless they are close to perfect as a date. I want the perfect date with the perfect history, or I expect the person to not have a history, when everyone has a history. Or if she doesn’t have the perfect history she should have a perfect history retroactive to 1999. Anyway, I want some retro perfection in the least. At the same time, I myself am less than perfect using the same retrospective analysis. But I hold off in search of the ideal. But what happens is the whole issue becomes a secondary consideration because I have made perfection or my idea of it primary, while it is possible this is indeed a good idea that is should still be out front, a lead issue, even with the accompanying imperfection which seems to be present and seems like it might remain present. But I have subtly reordered my priorities based on wanted perfection. I brought my desire for perfection onto my scale of what is important and weighed what was important based on perfection, less perfection, or the lesser to the all the way to the lack of perfection. I would have kept my interest and search for perfection as a separated sphere from my ordering of my priorities but this search for perfection issued right into how I ordered my priorities. I can’t accept the degrees of imperfection I might indeed find and have to deal with, and I use this as an excuse to bypass the whole idea.
Sometimes we feel bad that we miss perfection. Maybe we should also feel bad then if we miss something that is less then perfect, but still good.
The pursuit of perfection might involve a rush to judgment that just is not necessary. I can go into the situation without a need for rushing to judgment because why burden myself additionally if I really don’t want to, if I feel like taking my time and I don’t see perfection, why am I so in a rush to find it? There tends to be a gearing up if I don’t at first get what I want. I feel if I can only bring in more perfection that will bring me there. Surely, I will need to adjust pertinent variables, but the hold on the situation will not suddenly jump into perfections arena just because I have plugged in better to real and viable variables.
You say, I didn’t think this would have been perfect. Then you say, I thought it would be good, but I was looking for perfection. I would say, maybe you missed out on something good then.
I have put some things under the strain of perfections demands as the presiding weight of perfection is keeping me from moving with agility and breeziness into the future.
You would want your doctor, or someone who worked on the brakes on your car before you went down a mountain road to be a perfectionist. Would you want the engineer that designed your car not to be a perfectionist?
Maybe we wouldn’t know perfection if it was staring us in the face.
Realistically, when we are talking about perfection we are talking about being close to perfect.
Perfection may have a hold on you or you might have things on hold for perfection.
Here is the perfectionist phone call. I call you up, “ Hi, how are you” I have to put you on hold. “What for” I ask. You say, “I’m waiting for perfection”. Okay, I’ll see you next century.
These people have things being held up for the perfection they seek. They might not even know it when they see it.
Because they are holding on to perfection, perfection has a hold on them. Just like a bank being held up and eventually robbed, they might be robbing themselves out of opportunities by having perfection hold them up not only in the moment but also down the roadways of what otherwise might have been possible or could have been traversed if perfection was left by the wayside.
Also, there has always been a link between the search for perfection and procrastination. Because perfection seems to count for more even it is isn’t fully quantifiable, I am generally waiting for bigger numbers or something bigger and sometimes that wait tends to be longer.
The perfections wait might ironically work against finding perfection. I’m waiting on perfection in this situation, which will work against the letting go process, which is necessary or desirable in some situations as I can never be totally freed from chaos in the search. While I am patiently waiting on this situation for perfection, there might be another situation I am bypassing which is much closer to perfection and much easier to deal with right from the beginning or get go and the initial startup possibilities are real and could possibly be traversed in reality. At least I can get a start elsewhere, while perfection wouldn’t even give me a place at it’s starting line because it is so hard to get a toehold then.
You can only give what you can give. For example, my friend is a hairstylist. I want to give her business and I want to let her cut my hair once or twice a week. However, once I have my hair cut, it takes a month or so to grow back, so the best I can give her as a customer needing a haircut is a once a month visit to help her business out that way.
We might join ourselves into some creative process and look for perfection at the same time. First, I might want to increase the creative level. The first focus as far as our designs should be on the creative process rather than the perfection. The creative process is what I seek to march into and to navigate towards. If we have our designs on perfection while also looking for creativity, we might end up getting frustrated and wind up inhibiting the creative process. Here then I just frame for creativity since that is my goal. Perfection if it comes might be later on or as byproduct of some previously unknown mix, not right off the bat into the process.
I should be able to bring a given style to a particular situation that may or may not be side by side with perfection. People may have different speaking styles, writing styles, acting styles, and painting styles, all which can relate to the creative process. The whole creative area lends itself to different styles. After all, if everybody is going to be perfect, where is there room for style? I could look for the perfect me. A key idea is where, how and when do I need to be roomier in processes I’m involving myself in or what ranges can I attempt to go forward into. People have given themselves very narrow bands to both operate in and excel in and the question to that can by, why?
And also, low bar results are still results, I don’t have to jump over the canopy of the ages in everything I do and everywhere I go in order to find myself with some wanted results.

